Couples Therapy
Calling All Premarital, Engaged, Married or Committed Couples!!!!
How sure are you about your relationship and partner?! Is it time to check-in before you check-out?!
Are you already checked out and need help checking back in?!
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"For Our Eyes Only!"
Take a 30 minute relationship assessment today! (assessment completion time may vary) - Information Only Package
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"Where Do We Stand?!"
Couples take 100 question assessment; meet with Licensed Clinical Therapist/Prepare-Enrich Facilitator for (1) virtual session via Zoom (60-90mins) for assessment results interpretation, specialized feedback and recommendations.
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"Watch us Work!"
Package includes everything above PLUS (4) additional virtual couple sessions (60 mins each) to engage in couple exercises (specifically related to growth areas identified in your personalized assessment), guided by Licensed Clinical Therapist/Prepare-Enrich Facilitator.
“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.”
Is Your Relationship Starting To Feel Like A Chore?
Are you and your partner struggling with communication issues? Has infidelity or a lack of trust eroded your ability to feel secure in your marriage or relationship? Do you feel torn between staying together and breaking up and wish you had more guidance?
Maybe your relationship is dominated by yelling, arguing, and misunderstanding. Perhaps you can’t even speak without your partner misinterpreting what you say and taking it the wrong way. Or maybe your relationship isn’t full of fighting—it just feels dead. Both of you may have become so busy with other things that, somewhere along the way, you lost your connection. Running your household now feels like running a business. Things like romance and intimacy have started feeling like a chore.
It's Easy To Ignore A Relationship’s Pitfalls When Things Are Going Well
When your relationship is in a good place, you rarely have to think about why it’s going well. In the beginning, you and your partner may have felt like you were just “winging it”—everything was smooth sailing and you were too in love to dwell on minor road bumps. But then one day, maybe everything changed. You realized you didn’t share the goals anymore. Now, you may feel forced to ask: Why can’t we see eye to eye? What’s different about our relationship now?
Marriage and couples therapy is a chance to explore these questions together. Your relationship may be different now, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Here at Reaching My Destination, we want to help you and your partner communicate more effectively and accept growth and change in your lives.
Couples Often Get Along Until They Have Kids Or Experience Financial Troubles
The numbers don’t lie—roughly half of all marriages in the US end in divorce. Most couples that divorce do so within the first two years of being together. Part of the problem is that it’s hard for couples to anticipate what the road bumps of their marriage will be. A relationship may seem easy until children, financial issues, and other factors enter the picture. Two people may get along fine until they have to decide how to discipline kids or manage their money.
For example, one partner may have been raised in a home that was frugal; another in a home with lavish spending habits. One partner may have grown up in a home where yelling was normal; another in a home where yelling was seen as abusive. Everyone is raised with different expectations and this impacts their ability to navigate relationships.
Mental Health Problems Can Lead To Continual Misunderstanding Between Two People
One of the biggest causes of relationship disconnection is mental health issues. One partner may suffer from undiagnosed depression or anxiety without the other person knowing. The other person may think their partner’s just being lazy, irritable, or dramatic without knowing that their behavior stems from a mental health condition that should be taken more seriously.
Counseling is a time to solve these disconnections and understand what lies beneath the problems in your marriage. This increased understanding can help you get back to enjoying your partner and your relationship.
Couples Therapy Is A Chance To Enrich Your Bond For Years To Come
Let’s face it: part of you probably just wishes you could wave a magic wand and make your partner change. While this is normal, it’s impossible to heal a relationship if only one person is willing to change. Couples therapy with Reaching My Destination is a chance for you and your loved one to tie up the loose ends in your relationship and work together to find solutions. Our goal is to create a space where you can be vulnerable and share your feelings without any fear of judgment.
Most importantly, we are not here to take sides. We want to help you and your partner look beyond issues of right and wrong and work through your individual hang-ups. This way, couples therapy can be a place to nurture new conversations instead of rehashing old arguments. Although we will focus on conflict, the goal is to understand what’s driving the conflict, not pointing fingers. We will also help you focus on your strengths and use new skills to improve the problematic areas of your relationship.
What To Expect In Sessions
The process for getting started with us is fairly straightforward. In the beginning, you and your significant other will meet with your couples therapist together so that they can understand your goals and learn about what brought you to counseling. There may also be times during treatment when your therapist meets with each partner one-on-one. Additionally, we may recommend that each of you seek individual therapy at the same time as couples counseling,
From there, you will resume meeting in two-on-one sessions. We will ask the big questions: do you feel your relationship is worth fighting for? How willing are both of you to change? What are the negative patterns that keep cropping up in your marriage? Exploring these questions can give you new insights into your relationship dynamics and help you feel comfortable being open and vulnerable with each other.
Tailoring Your Treatment Plan
One of the many approaches we use for couples therapy is the Gottman Method. This approach views relationships like a house—in order for the house to stand strong, there has to be solid foundation. The Gottman Method can help you build a foundation of fondness, admiration, intimacy, and shared understanding. You and your partner will learn about what behaviors help you turn toward each other rather than away as well what the predictors of a successful relationship are.
Additionally, we often draw from an approach called Prepare-and-Enrich. So much of a relationship’s journey can feel “winging it,” as if you and your loved one are making up solutions on the fly. The Prepare-and-Enrich approach is all about helping you enrich your relationship’s bond so that you can be more prepared for difficulties.
With the right help and support, we believe you and your significant other can strengthen your relationship in ways you never imagined. Couples counseling can help you increase intimacy, work through communication issues, and arrive at a deeper understanding of each other’s needs.
You may have some questions about marriage and couples therapy…
What if we come to therapy and then decide to break up?
The goal of couples counseling is to improve your relationship. We’ll never tell you what direction your relationship should take, but it’s important to be open to different forms of progress. If you and your loved one work through your issues and then decide to go your separate ways, that’s okay. It happens. It’s not a sign of weakness or failure. After all, if both of you conclude that you shouldn’t be together, wouldn’t it be better to find out sooner rather than later? You would each be able to get the proper closure you need to fully heal or grieve in order to move forward.
We don’t want a therapist taking sides.
Counseling is your time. We are here to help you explore your relationship on a deeper level, allowing you to come up with new solutions yourself. We’ll never form an alliance with you or your partner. Our goal is to provide a space where both of you can talk openly and honestly and solve your issues by working together.
We don’t feel comfortable talking to a stranger about our relationship.
Therapy happens on your timing and at your comfort level. You don’t have to open up about all your struggles right away, although it helps to give your therapist information up-front. And while we may not be as close to you as friends or family members, the good news is that we can provide an outside perspective on your relationship. After all, friends and family members—as well-meaning as they are—are often biased about your situation. They may even have a personal stake in it. Because we are not directly involved in your situation, we can remain more neutral and objective.
Let Us Help You And Your Loved One Deepen Your Love For Each Other
No matter how hopeless you feel, we believe we can help you and your partner rekindle the spark at the heart of your relationship. To begin the healing process, you can email us or use the contact page. We look forward to working with you!
